Why do people fight? There are many reasons: most of the reasons are because of the feeling that other people don’t understand them. People sometimes feel aggrieved and then they elevate their emotions into a tone of voice. Sometimes it’s just a loud voice, it doesn’t mean a quarrel, it’s just a feeling that you can’t say anything, so you want to use your voice to elevate your reason. Next, please follow the editor to analyze, our twelve signs of the couples quarrel code is what it is?
Quarrel “four to”:
A to listen patiently
Special attention: Aries, Gemini, Virgo, Capricorn
Once read such a paragraph “when two people are angry with each other, heart and heart far apart, in order to fill this distance, they must shout, so that each other can hear ……” quarrel is also need to listen, do not interrupt each other, take turns to speak, so that we can hear the voice of each other’s heart. the voices in each other’s hearts. And repeat the other person’s understanding with sentences such as “Do you mean ……?”, “What do you mean ……?”, etc., so that communication will be clearer. words, the communication will be clearer, and the wrong understanding can be corrected in time.
Special Note: Aries, Gemini, Virgo, Capricorn
Positive expression
Special Attention: Cancer, Virgo, Libra, Pisces
Although it’s inevitable that there will be a lot of negativity in a fight, make sure to talk about things as they are, and don’t hit the other person’s parents, friends, etc., unless you want the war to continue to escalate! And when you express your negative feelings, don’t deny all of them, or even be sarcastic, as that will only make you feel worse and hurt the other person’s heart! Want the other side is willing to listen to you, can heart to feel your feelings, may wish to listen to him first you are willing to express gratitude, this is also easy to hook up his compassion Oh!
Three to reflect on the error
Special attention: Taurus, Leo, Sagittarius, Capricorn
What is the purpose of quarreling? Isn’t it to get the other person to take your ideas seriously and solve the problem together? How can you communicate if you always say you’re right and the other person is always wrong? Because the other person will think they are right! Backward for forward, first open mouth to admit their own mistakes, will greatly reduce the other side of the defense heart, and then point out the other side is not, he will be easy to accept. Then discuss what to do with each other, not solved?
Four to give both steps
Special attention: Aries, Leo, Scorpio, Aquarius
Even if you have a consensus after the fight, the problem of the fight will be solved, but the embarrassment, reluctance, don’t pinch left over from the red face of the fight will still exist in each other’s hearts. Take the initiative to show good, say a few secret jokes that only the two of you understand, or go to hug each other, pull his hand, trickery and pampering can be used. Even if the other side ignore you, do not give up oh! His heart’s defense is a little bit of disintegration, you again adhere to a little bit, absolutely can see his smiling face!
Quarrel “four do not”:
Don’t rehash old scores
Special Attention: Cancer, Virgo, Scorpio, Pisces
Always to the other side of the old accounts, is trying to cause him to feel guilty? I regret to tell you, this will not only not make him guilty, but also attract his greater anger. “What are we going to do if this happens to us in the future”, “How are you going to deal with a similar problem in the future” – if you are going to say it, remember to say things like this, it will make you shift the focus of the argument to problem solving.
Two don’t get physical.
Special Note: Aries, Leo, Sagittarius, Aquarius
Quarrel just moving mouth, emotions a vent finished, apologize things are over, two people can still love. But once the hands, will only make the conflict bigger and bigger, seriously hurt each other’s hearts, not to mention that there may even rise to the two family conflicts, even if the future and good, but also inevitably will leave a psychological shadow. If you really can’t afford it, then eat desperately or brush the toilet, itchy hands, then smash the pillow.
Three do not say break up
Special attention: Aries, Gemini, Libra, Sagittarius
You think with the breakup to “threaten” him, he will really pay attention to your feelings, but have you ever thought, randomly “break up” said, not only hurt each other’s heart, but also on your feelings of a kind of pollution! If he really took it seriously, or impulsively said “good”, what do you take back? And then more explanations and apologies are still useful? Remember: even if angry, do not say break up, unless you have decided to let go of each other’s hands!
Four do not cold war
Special Attention: Taurus, Virgo, Scorpio, Capricorn
The heart is not convinced, or in order to punish each other, the choice of cold war, a few days in a row do not give each other a good face, each other initiative to find you to talk to you do not take care of it – small edited qu advice you still do not easily try this way! The fundamental purpose of the quarrel is still communication, the cold war will only make the misunderstanding and the knot more and more unraveled, the distance between the heart and the heart more and more distant. Noisy to uncontrollable, go out for a walk to ease is desirable, but do not come back to tense face Oh!
